Jamiatul Ulama South Africa Online Newsletter

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Vol. 13 No. 23 17 Dhu al Qa’da 1439/01
August 2018
Comment and Analysis
Interpersonal Skills from the
Six Ways for Communicating Effectively
Humans are social beings who continually
interact with people. The soundness of our relationship with
people is largely based on our interpersonal skills.
Interpersonal skills are the skills that a person uses to
interact with other people. Interpersonal skills are sometimes
also referred to as communication skills. No matter how hard you
work or how brilliant you are, if you cannot connect with people
around you, you will lead a life of conflict or emotional
detachment from those around you. We start learning
interpersonal skills from the time we are born, the very first
and natural means of communication for a baby is to cry and as
we grow, we gradually learn how people are likely to react to
what we say and do. Some of the interpersonal skills that the
Quran refers to are:

1. “Take to Forbearance:”
Make allowance for human nature and do not be too harsh
with those who err. The shortcomings you see in others are
simply a reflection of your own human weaknesses. Nabi
Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam once asked the Ashaab Radhi-Allahu
anhu: “Should I not inform you of an individual who becomes
forbidden for the fire of hell and the fire of hell becomes
forbidden for him?” “A person who is gentle, soft, near the
hearts of people and easy going.” (Ahmed)

2. “Enjoin the Doing of Right:”
You can only advise people to do good if you believe they have
the potential to do so. Focus on their potential and not on
their limitations. If people know we expect good things from
them, they will in most cases go to great lengths to live up to
our expectations. If you treat people on the basis of what they
can be, you help them to become what they are capable of

3. “Leave alone those who Choose to be Quarrelsome:”
Once the Prophet Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam was sitting with
his Companions, and one person used insulting words against Abu
Bakr Radhi-Allahu anhu causing him pain. But Abu Bakr
Radhi-Allahu anhu remained silent. The person again used bitter
words against Abu Bakr Radhi-Allahu anhu and still Abu Bakr
Radhi-Allahu anhu did not respond. The third time when this
ignorant person hurt Abu Bakr Radhi-Allahu anhu with his tongue,
Abu Bakr Radhi-Allahu anhu tried answering back. At this point
the Prophet Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam got up. Abu Bakr
Radhi-Allahu anhu asked him, “Are you displeased with me, O
Messenger of Allah?”

The Prophet Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam replied, “No, but (when
you remained silent) an angel came down from the heaven
responding to this man’s talk. But the moment you started
replying to that man, the angel went away and the devil sat
down. And I cannot sit where the devil is sitting.”
(Abu Dawud)

4. Use Appropriate Words:
“O You who believe! Remain conscious of Allah and always speak
appropriate words…” (33:70) Inappropriate words include being
sarcastic, hurtful, or saying what you do not mean. Nabi
Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam has said: “Whoever believes in Allah
and the Last Day should speak good or keep silent.” “Watch what
you say! Say what you mean, and mean what you say!”

5. Learn to Listen:
“In this (the rise and fall of nations) there is a reminder for
everyone who has a heart, everyone who lends an ear with a
conscious mind.” (50: 37) Can you lend an ear without a
conscious mind? This verse shows the difference between simply
hearing and listening. Listening is to hear with the presence of
heart and mind. To give thought and to reflect at what is being
said. Concentrate on what the speaker is saying. The best way to
persuade people is with your ears— by listening to them.

6. Be Conscious of your Body Language:
Body language is a form of non-verbal communication, which
consists of body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye
movements. As humans we send and interpret such signals

Nabi Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam was reprimanded for frowning in
front of and turning his face away from a blind man, because he
was annoyed at him interrupting a very important discussion he
was having with the chiefs of the Quraish. The blind man could
not have possible picked up the body language of Nabi Sallallahu
‘alayhi wasallam yet he was reprimanded so that we may know the
importance of non-verbal communication.

Interpersonal skills could be summarised in one short hadith of
Nabi Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam who said: "Be a bearer of glad
tidings and do not scare people away from you , make things easy
and no dot make things difficult.” (Abu Dawud)

Make Allah grant us the power to communicate effectively.

Sermon of the Week
The Dignity of
a Muslim (3 of 3)

• Shaddad ibn Aus radhiyallahu ‘anhu in a Hadith Qudsi narrates:
I heard Rasullullah sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam saying: “Indeed,
Allah has said: “When I put to test one of My believing slaves
(with adversities), and he praises Me (remains thankful to Me),
despite these afflictions on him, I command (the angels) to keep
on recording the reward for him as (they) used to record the
reward in health.” (Musnad Ahmad, Tabarani)

• Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Rasullullah
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “A persistent fever or a
headache suffered by a Muslim slave, man or woman, will not
leave a single sin, even the size of a mustard seed, though
being burdened by sins like Mount Uhud.” (Abu Ya’laa,

• Abu Sa‘id Al-Khudri radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that
Rasullullah sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “For a Mu’min’s
headache or a thorn prick or any other thing which causes him
distress, Allah will elevate him one degree and wipe out his
sins on the Day of Resurrection.” (lbn Abi Dunyaa’)

• Abu Umamah Al-Bahili radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Nabi
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “Any slaves of Allah who
implores humbly and earnestly in an illness, Allah grants him
recovery in such a way that he is cleansed of all his sins.”
(Tabarani, Majma-‘uz-Zawaa-id)

• Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Rasullullah
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam in a Hadith Qudsi said: Allah says:
“When I inflict illness upon My believing slave and he does not
complain about Me to people who visit him, I set him free
(forgive his sins). Then I change his flesh with flesh better
than his and blood better than his blood and he resumes his
deeds afresh (as all his sins been wiped out).” (Mustadrak

• Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Nabi sallallahu
‘alaihi wasallam said: “Any (Muslim) who had fever for a single
night, bore it with patience and remained pleased with Allah,
the Almighty and Majestic, he gets cleansed of his sins, like
the day his mother gave birth to him.” (Ibn Abid Dunya, Targhib)

• Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu reported from Nabi sallallahu
‘alaihi wasallam in a Hadith that Allah says: “If I take away
two of the dearest things (eyes) of a Muslim and he remains
patient, hoping for a reward, then nothing short of rewarding
him with Paradise can please Me.” (Tirmidhi)

• Abu Musa radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Rasullullah
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “When a (Muslim) slave is ill
or on a journey, the same deeds are written for him, as he used
to do while at home or in health.” (Bukhari)

• Abu Sa‘id radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Nabi sallallahu
‘alaihi wasallam said: “A truthful trustworthy merchant shall be
with the Prophets, Siddiqeen (the true followers) and martyrs.”

• Rifa‘ah radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Nabi sallallahu
‘alaihi wasallam said: “The merchants will be raised up on the
Day of Resurrection sinful, except those who feared Allah, were
honest (refrained from fraud and embezzlement) and were
truthful.” (Tirmidhi)

• Umm ‘Ammarah Ansariyah radhiyallahu ‘anha, the daughter of
Ka’b radhiyallahu ‘anhu, says that once Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi
wasallam visited her and she presented him some food. He said:
“You may eat also.” She replied: “I am fasting.” At this,
Rasullullah sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “Indeed the angels
continue to invoke blessing on the person who is fasting and
others eat besides him till they finish or they are filled.”

• Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Rasullullah
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “A tree was causing trouble to
Muslims. A man came and cut it and due to this he was entered
into Paradise.” (Muslim)

• Abu Dharr radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Nabi sallallahu
‘alaihi wasallam said to him: “Look! Undoubtedly you are not
superior to a fair skinned or a dark skinned person, except that
you excel him/her by Taqwa (the fear of Allah).” (Musnad Ahmad)

• Thawban radhiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that Rasullullah
sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “In my Ummah there are some
people that if one of them comes to you and asks for a dinar, it
would not be given to him; if he asks for a dirham, it would not
be given to him, (or even) if he asks for a penny, it would not
be given to him. However, if he asks Allah for Jannah, He would
grant it to him. He may be clothed into two old sheets which do
not completely cover him, yet if he swears by Allah; He would
honour his words.” (Tabrani)

Words of Wisdom
Hadith of the Week
Abu Huraira Radhi-Allahu anhu reported: The
Messenger of Allah Sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam said:

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day,
let him speak
goodness or remain silent.

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day,
let him honor his

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day,
let him honor his

(Sahih Muslim)

In another narration, the Prophet said:

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day,
let him not harm his

(Sahih Bukhari)

In another narration, the Prophet said:

Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day,
let him uphold his
family ties.

(Sahih Bukhari)

Quote of the Week
 “Verily, good deeds will brighten the
face, enlighten the heart, expand provision, strengthen the
body, and cause love in the hearts of the creation. Verily, evil
deeds will blacken the face, darken the grave and the heart,
weaken the body, restrict provision, and cause hatred in the
hearts of the creation.”

(Abdullah ibn Abbas)
Saying of the Week
If you buy what you don’t need,
you steal from yourself. (Swedish Saying)
Question and Answer


Assalamu ‘alaikum

I recently lent a sum of money to another Muslim in order to
assist that person with the purchase of their first home. The
loan has been recently repaid and he is so grateful for the
gesture that he wishes to invite me to his home for a meal as a
token of appreciation.

I have declined the invitation for fear that it would be
regarded as taking benefit from the loan which would be like
receiving interest. However, I also don’t want my action of
declining the invitation to be seen as arrogance on my part.

Please advise me on what would be the best action in the eyes of

Was salaam.


In the given scenario, there would be no harm in accepting their
invitation as they are merely expressing their appreciation
towards you. Their invite is not part of adherence to a
condition that you placed at the time of giving the loan. Hence,
it would be acceptable to honour the invitation.

Reference: Shaami 5/166

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Qurbani Arrangements
The Jamiatul Ulama South Africa has this year, once again, arranged for Qurbani /Udhiyya both locally and in India. The
costs per share respectively are: R2400.00 and R400.00.

Details of the arrangements and how you can sponsor a Qurbani

lmaam Khateeb Workshop
The Jamiatul Ulama South Africa’s Da’wah wal
lrshaad will host an lmaam Khateeb Workshop on Sunday 5 August

The programme will highlight the responsibilities of an imam has
been scheduled to take place at Nurul Islam Hall, Lenasia, Ext
5, from 9:30am till Dhuhr, after which lunch will be served,

The speakers will include: Moulana Hassan Dockrat, Moulana Abbas
Sarigat, Moulana Ebrahim Bham, Qari Saleh Peck, Mufti Farouk
Minty, Moulana Yusuf Abed and Moulana Anis Munshi.

For more information, contact Da’wah wal lrshaad as follows:
Phone: 011 852-4631 or
SMS / WhatsApp on:  083 786 7414 / 071 676 1757. Da’wah wal
lrshaad’s email address is: dawah@jamiatsa.org

Useful Links
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Halaal Authority
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